Nonesuch #245 dating 2007

I have deleted all my dating profiles that I remember signing up for. They were getting me nowhere and actually making me feel worse about myself and my non-dating situation. As Jerry told George, "Since nothing you are doing is working, maybe you should do the exact opposite." or something along those lines. The thing is, I am not sure what I can even do that will do anything to change my situation. I have thought about taking a class at the community college, hanging around grocery stores more and even going to church. I would go to a library but I work in one so, I am not too up on that option. I sense a theme: I need to get out of the house more. I may do all but go to church. I have dated a few girls that went to church every Sunday and let me say they were not all that churchly and I can say that cause I am not either but I do respect people and I don't lie or cheat. I asked some of my close friends to tell me what I have been doing wrong in my past relationships, stuff that stood out for them but I have received no answers, so far. One, said she would tell me if I told her about her dating miscues except the obvious. Now, I don't know what she means by the obvious. Plus, I want to know for myself and I apologize for it being about me for a change. I am not a selfish person but I also tend to put my feelings, wants and needs to the side so I think it is time for me to work on me. I just want my friends to be honest with me. I know some of my issues/problems but sometimes hearing it from others can give that kick in the ass we need from time to time.